OK, I admit it's still gross to imagine putting syrup on spaghetti, so perhaps a better example of the power of social convention—and its relative arbitrariness—is the lesson Buddy (Will Ferrell) gets from his human brother about proper dating etiquette. The brother tells Buddy that he should take his female co-worker on a date by asking her "to eat food," but it has to be "real food, not candy." The movie is again making a joke by pointing out that a custom Americans take for granted seems arbitrary and strange from a kid or elf's perspective—yet that kid/elf perspective contains a kernel of truth, a wisp of plausibility. After all, attraction to sweet tastes is one of the biological universals we humans (raised by humans) share, and Americans consume nothing but candy on other special occasions, such as Valentine's Day. It would actually make sense for Americans to go on dates and just eat sweets.
But there's an even better authority here than mere biological science: Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting. In the Harvard bar scene in this movie, after Skylar (Minnie Driver) gives Will (Damon) her phone number, she says, "Maybe we could go out for a cup of coffee sometime?"
"Great," Will says, "Or maybe we could go somewhere and just eat a bunch of caramels."Skylar is baffled, so Will explains, "When you think about it, it's just as arbitrary as drinking coffee."
Will is making a reasonable anthropological point about American culture's skewed rules for the ritual consumption of food and drink (a point that would apply to other cultures as well).
I'm not trying to convince readers to run out and eat caramels or put syrup on their spaghetti, I'm just saying that Elf exposes the social construction of taken-for-granted American customs, from food habits to escalators. Buddy reminds us that an escalator really is a scary machine with gnashing metal teeth, a modern contraption that is literally and metaphorically "earth-shattering." His escalator ride creates a perfect body metaphor for the disorientation caused by culture shock throughout this entire movie.

That’s what culture shock does at its best: it moves the ground beneath our feet, it gives us a fresh way to see things, including escalators and advertisements about “world’s best cup of coffee.”
At least that’s the way I see it, and not just because, as an anthropologist, I've dedicated my career to culture shock. The popularity of movies like Elf shows that people all over enjoy culture shock for the sheer joy of surprise and illumination. Even neuroscience research proves comedy and cognition are linked: on fMRI tests, the same parts of research subjects’ brains light up when they solve word puzzles and when they watch videos of stand-up comedy. In the best cases, such as Elf, we're laughing, thinking, and being entertained at the same time.
Now here’s a more personal take on culture and
escalators. About 7 years ago, I was flying out of Newark Airport, not far from New York City. I always love airports—the intersection
of cultures, the many lives on the cusp of change, the liminal
betwixt-and-between atmosphere—but the Newark Airport is fairly large and impersonal, and on this particular morning, it was filled with long lines and grumpy people. I overheard one passenger say to a counter attendant, "How friggin' rude." I myself was low on sleep and rushing to catch a flight
back to Oregon, so I tried to keep my head down and not interact with anyone.
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| Newark Airport, Manhattan in background. Credit Ramriot, Flckr. |
When
I got to the foot of an escalator, though, a South Asian woman in a sari
tapped me on the shoulder and got me to stop. She couldn’t speak English, but
she smiled broadly and then started to guide the hand of her small son, about 4 years old, toward
me. I was confused, but couldn't just walk away, so I stepped aside to let
the people behind me rush onto the escalator. A couple possibilities raced
through my mind: Was this a trick to get money by exploiting my sympathy for a
mother and her little kid, who was, in fact, adorable? Did she lose something
inside the escalator? Did she not know how to find her gate?
She just kept smiling, offering me the little boy’s hand, and
speaking in an incomprehensible foreign language. Then I
figured out what the problem was. She literally had too much to handle: two little boys (her other son was even younger) and a large suitcase. She couldn’t hold onto her two sons' hands and the suitcase while riding the escalator.
She was forced to do what no mother should ever have to do: ask a stranger to take
her little boy's hand in a crowded public place.
That killed me.
That killed me.
Of course I smiled and agreed. When the boy put his small hand in mine, the harsh airport melted away and I felt it—that pure human connection to the world.
Riding up the escalator, the little boy held my hand and looked back and forth between me, the moving stairs, and his
mother, who was right behind him whispering words of assurance. Near the top, as the
stairs disappeared into thin air, he showed no signs of stepping off, so I
picked him up high in the air and set him back down on solid ground, as if this were
a fun game. Undoubtedly, when the boy got a couple years older, he'd easily master the escalator and treat it like a joyride, but for now he just seemed confused. I wanted to make sure they made it to their gate safely, even wished
I could find out all about them and their trip, but the mother just mumbled a thank you, took her boy’s hand, and sped off in the opposite
direction, and I never saw them again.
I haven’t travelled much in India, just a couple weeks back
in the mid-80s’, but in every part of the world where I’ve
travelled and lived, in Asia, Africa, and Latin America, I’ve been overwhelmed by
people’s generosity and hospitality. I’ve also been reduced to a child-like
state of helplessness, sometimes unable to speak the language and often perplexed by unfamiliar customs. I’ve surely
looked sillier than Buddy straddling the escalator stairs or putting syrup
on his spaghetti. But I keep going back into the revolving door for the thrill
of another spin, for more culture.
Maybe Christmas should be more like my escalator moment, if not Buddy’s: spontaneous moments that bring us together and move the ground beneath our feet. In the meantime, I’m glad we’ve got movies like Elf to keep us in touch with our sense of wonder, awe, and togetherness.
Maybe Christmas should be more like my escalator moment, if not Buddy’s: spontaneous moments that bring us together and move the ground beneath our feet. In the meantime, I’m glad we’ve got movies like Elf to keep us in touch with our sense of wonder, awe, and togetherness.
Related materials:
Peter Wogan, “What’s So Funny about First Contact?” Visual Anthropology Review 22:14-33, 2006. (In this journal article, I analyze a documentary about first contact in the
1930s between Australian goldminers and aboriginal peoples in Papua New
Guinea. I analyze Westerners’ fascination with technology as a ritual of
supremacy, but also as a source of “wonder,” and I place the discussion
within the Obeyesekere-Sahlins debate over rationality.)
The Terminal (Great comedy movie about a Russian passenger (Tom Hanks) who lives in JFK Airport for weeks.)
Occupy North Pole Video (Warning: This clip could ruin your Christmas. Proceed at your own risk.)

























